Defining "Skinny" and "Fat"

2/8/2015

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Recently in the news, there has been a story circulating about a so-called "plus-sized model" in the swimsuit issue of Sports Illustrated. Apparently this is the first "plus-sized model" the magazine has ever used, so this was supposed to be a big deal. But, seriously, that model is the same size, if not smaller, than the average woman. Robin Lawley, the model, is a size 12, while the average woman is a size 14. (And she has no pubic hair in the picture, just btw.) Alright, you can still be stoked that they're not using a size 0. But seriously? Plus-sized? The other models are minus-sized.  

Ashley Graham, the other model everyone was freaking out about, still isn't plus-sized. She wears a size 14/16, the average size for women. And she was featured in an advertisement, for which Sports Illustrated was paid!

On the left, Ashley Graham in an advertisement that appeared in Sports Illustrated for "Swimsuits for All".
On the right, Robin Lawley in the editorial section of the same Sports Illustrated issue. 

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This leads me to another important discussion about the positive and negative connotations with the words "skinny" and "fat", respectively. "Skinny" is often taken as a compliment, because of society's warped perception of beauty. "Fat" is often taken as an insult, also because of society's warped perception of beauty.

These words are just adjectives. 

Too many people have been harmed in the quest to be "skinny," to be what society views as ideal. But let me tell you a little secret that more people should know: society is fucked up. Big time.

You don't have to be emaciated to be beautiful. If you're overweight, I'm sure you're beautiful, too.

But another issue with our society is that we value beauty far too much. There are so many campaigns directed towards women and girls to make them feel "beautiful." Why not target women and girls to make them feel smart, or accomplished, or successful? I like these adjectives better. 

Next time you go to compliment someone, instead of automatically reach for words such as "pretty" or "skinny", go for intelligent, driven, confident, clever, or funny. 

A good friend

1.  A good friend is honest.
A good friend may not share every detail of every second of their life, but they do try to be clear about their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations. When something doesn't seem right, they let you know.

2.  A good friend is fun, unique and interesting.

OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there's a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests.

As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they're the life of the party, others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.

3.  A good friend is attentive and adaptable.
A good friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. They can't read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset. If they're aware that they're doing something that annoys you, they try to change their ways or at least talk to you about it.

4.  A good friend is supportive of you and your goals.
Sure, your friend may think you're cool, but are they on the same page as you? Do they know what you want most out of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you.'

5.  A good friend is a friend you can trust.
A true friend won't try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won't gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you're in trouble.

6.  A good friend makes it clear that they care about you.
Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in your life and act interested about it.

7.  A good friend sticks with you in good times and bad.
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch schools, they'll do their best to stay in touch with you.

8.  A good friend accepts you for who you are, even when you're being a butthead.
OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there's a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests.
As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they're the life of the party, others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.
In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults.
They are also patient with you when you make mistakes -- even big ones -- and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you'd like to be treated, even when you aren't at your best.

11 Bad Social Habits that Make You Undateable

Do you ever wonder why you’re having a hard time getting a date or finding someone who likes you? It may be a few of these undateable habits of yours! 

Signs of an undateable person

“Why doesn't anyone want to date me?!”

This is something a lot of men and women would ask themselves whenever they’re single. The problem with this is that sometimes, we don’t want to admit why we’re being undateable.

Usually we’re more than capable of fully justifying our behavior, but the problem with this is that our behavior may not be completely acceptable to those we want to date.

So what is it that you’re doing wrong? Is there something you always do or say that deters potential partners? Is there something wrong with the way you interact with your date, with your friends, with other people?

11 bad social habits that make you undateable

If you've got no idea why you can’t seem to get a date, here are 11 possible reasons why that may be happening in your life.

#1 You don’t like to go out. You love the comfort and privacy of your home so much that the idea of going out there for anything less than a fabulous time completely puts you off.

It’s okay to be a homebody, that’s your choice. But when you’re all cooped up in your house, how can anyone even know that you’re single and ready to mingle?

Going out doesn’t need to feel like a chore. You always have a say in what you want to do when you’re outside. If you’re uncomfortable with the idea of going out alone, bring a friend and hang out in a quiet music café or in the corner coffee shop. You never know who might notice your presence and try to get to know you.

#2 You enjoy your “me time” too much to share it with another person. Me-time is important, but it doesn’t have to dominate your entire schedule. There will always be activities that you would rather do on your own. But for those activities that can be enhanced by the presence of another person, those can turn into future date ideas.

Keep in mind that by bringing another person into activities you enjoy, like walking your dog, relaxing at a music lounge or even shopping, you could potentially turn the experience into a more fulfilling and more enjoyable one. 

#3 You’re too busy to date. Now this is a problem for a lot of people who are juggling two jobs or have a lot of other responsibilities at home. However, dating doesn’t have to take up too much of your time. What’s an hour or two once a week that you can spend with someone you can really hit it off with?

Many people tend to glorify being busy as they believe this equates to being productive. But if you really look into your schedule, which of those activities are actually productive to you? If you can spot those that aren’t really productive, then maybe you can reserve those hours for future dates.

#4 You don’t like to get all dressed up. Tons of people think you have to get all dressed up just to get asked out on a date. This isn’t true. However, you do have to pay attention to the way you present yourself.

No one wants to date someone who looks like she hasn’t showered in a week. Likewise, you’d be hard-pressed to find someone willing to date a girl who looks like she spends half the day getting ready. Find the balance and present yourself in the way you want to be seen by potential dates.

#5 You have issues from previous relationships. Some issues take years and years to be resolved, and you shouldn’t rush it for the sake of a date. But the thing is, you should also be willing to put in some effort to resolve these issues if you want to be dateable.

Issues about infidelity, trust, abuse and all sorts of things you’ve gone through in past relationships can mar future ones. So before you venture out into the dating world, it’s a good idea to keep these issues in check.

#6 You have crazy high standards. You know how some people say that you should date within your “rating?” Like if you’re a 7, you should only date those who are between 6 and 8. This may not always hold true for everyone, but one thing is for sure – don’t expect to date a person who’s absolutely perfect if you don’t do anything to attract people who are that type. 

For example, don’t expect to be dating a guy who’s a perfect gentleman, makes six figures a month and looks like a cross between Tom Hardy and Brad Pitt if you’re going to act like a hot mess who can’t even handle any responsibilities.

#7 You rely too much on the opinion of your friends and/or family. Of course, they’re the people who care about you and want the best for you. But you also have to be able to make your own decisions, especially when it comes to the people you date.

Sometimes, the most sensitive of people can tell that you seek the approval of your friends and/or family, particularly when you blurt out things like, “Oh, my mum doesn’t want me to date a banker.” Or “My friends would totally like you, I can tell.” This can be enough to tell your date that they might end up dating your entire social circle instead of just you!

#8 You can be a wee bit clingy. In the dating scene, the rule is to try and keep it casual. Keep it cool and don’t act like a crazy girlfriend/boyfriend on the first date. But when you run into someone you really like, do you build up the proverbial fence around them to keep the threats away?

We know you want to keep this guy or girl all to yourself, but you have to realize that dating is a mutual decision. If your new squeeze wants to date other people, and you’re not even a couple yet, you have to respect their decision, or else future dates will be an impossibility.

#9 You’re too competitive. Is it sometimes hard for you to get into a friendly debate without turning it into a full-blown argument? This may not always spell anger issues, but in the eyes of someone who hardly knows you, they may think that this is a sign that you’re way too aggressive. Try to ease up and relax, because no one wants to enter into a conversation and leave it with a black eye!

#10 You can sometimes be tactless. There’s a certain way of saying things so as to not hurt another person’s feelings. It’s an art form that can take years to master. However, simply holding your tongue and thinking before you speak can help prevent you from blurting out things that might accidentally hurt another person. Rule of thumb – when in doubt about whether or not to say something that may not be nice, keep it to yourself.

#11 You wouldn’t date you. If you don’t want to date yourself, do you think anyone else would want to? The thing that’s stopping so many people from venturing out and going out with other people is that they feel like they’re completely unattractive, unworthy and undateable. This can stem from issues about self-esteem and self-worth.

It’s easy to say that you’re not as bad as you think and you should cut yourself some slack. However, you have to realize these things for yourself. There are ways you can increase your self-esteem, and it’s always a good idea to give yourself a little time off so you can learn to appreciate yourself even more. 

Do this and your inner radiance will shine through enough to get the attention of people you’d like to date.

Try your best to get rid of these 11 bad habits one at a time. Not only will it help improve your dating options and remove the undateable tag, but it can also help you improve your social life as a whole.

Things I Hate About Being a Teenager

Standing Up For Yourself

How far would you go to have others think you were cool? Lie to your parents? Laugh at something you know is offensive? What would you do to avoid being laughed at? Break a law? Play a cruel practical joke on a teacher?

Would you follow the pack instead of standing up for yourself? Take risks and behave in ways you'd be mortified to have your grandma know about?


You've heard the term since third grade: “peer pressure.” Before you knew exactly what it meant, you knew it was some force that had a huge effect on your physical and emotional wellbeing. While this “force” may sound daunting, one thing you should always remember is that when it comes to peer pressure, you always have a choice — a choice to succumb to the pressures put on by others, or to take the alternative route.


Peer pressure, the influence your "friends" exert on you, whether in words of encouragement, criticism, persuasion, or in appearance by way of hair, makeup and clothes, is never more powerful than it is during adolescence.


Psychologists have different theories about why. One school of thought says that acceptance by your friends satisfies a need to belong. Another says that life is simply easier when we act like everyone else instead of standing up for ourselves.


There’s no doubt conforming is easier. Or it might be that teens try to conform to their perception of others' expectations. Whatever the reason, when it comes to activities — and sometimes even values — young people care more about what their friends think than anyone else.


Not all peer pressure is negative, however. The people you hang out with shape your personality: Us girls, for instance, who typically have a supportive network of friends, are less likely to suffer from depression. You and your friends are likely to have lots in common when it comes to healthy habits, too. If your friends play sports, eat right, do well in school or are involved in community service, chances are so will you. If none of them smoke or do drugs, chances are you don’t either.


Yet even for the strongest teens, there are times when "in-your-face" peer pressure can force you to consider risky behavior. Whether you're tempted — “Come on, it'll be fun...we'll never get caught,” — taunted — “What's the matter, your mommy say you couldn't go?” — or threatened — “If you were really our friend you'd come with us.”

Even in the face of such talk, stay strong: There are ways to handle the pressure by standing up for yourself.

Ask a lot of questions.The answers will not only help you determine the risk and put the other person on the defensive, they will also put you in a position of power.
Practice saying no. Then when you have to say it, you won't mumble. The more certain you are when standing up for yourself, the less people will bother you.
Turn it back on them. If you're threatened, argue that real friends wouldn’t use pressure to make you do something you don't want to do.

Get away from the pressure zone. If you know what's going to happen (a conversation bad-mouthing a friend of yours, an invitation to a place you're not comfortable going to), make a quick exit and make sure you have other plans.
Find a friend who shares your values to back you up. A supportive friend will be there for you to help you get though even the toughest of situations.
Get the leader of the pack alone. Explain how you're feeling and let her know you'd appreciate her backing off.
Think of the consequences of giving in. Getting grounded. The police. Your conscience. Keep in mind that, contrary to what's being said, everybody is not "doing it" — no matter what it is.


Be your own best friend and stand up for yourself. In the long run, saying “no” can make you more popular than saying “yes” every time. There is no feeling like standing up for yourself and learning to be your own person. And always remember: True friends like you for who you are, not who they want you to be.

My 20 tough love reasons for why you don’t have a boyfriend:

1. You’re needy. You met him last weekend, he texted a few times, and now you just won’t leave the guy alone. You went from 0 to 60 in a few days. You’re already planning for next weekend. This is probably the #1 behavior that gets girls labeled psycho in the early days.

2. You like players. You say you want a nice guy, but you fall for the same lines again and again. You can’t resist the bad boys, the ones who have dumped on other women. You think that you will be different, that nabbing a player will validate your feminine powers. But the player always wins, because the player always walks.

3. You’re a princess. You want a man who will proclaim to the world that he is whipped as butter. He will worship the very ground you walk on. Trouble is, the only men who will happily inhabit a one-down position in a relationship have no balls. Do you really want a guy who will eagerly go to a bunch of chick flicks with you? Wouldn’t you rather accompany him to Transformers from time to time?

4. You flirt too much. Flirting is an essential skill in any woman’s toolkit. It is meant to indicate to a guy that you are singling him out for special attention because you are attracted to him. If you flirt like crazy with every Y chromosome you encounter, it loses its effectiveness, and makes you seem “not very choosy.” Also, if you are spending time with a guy but can’t stand the idea of hiding your light under a bushel, he is not going to appreciate your flirting with other men. It makes him look and feel less manly, and awakens unwelcome feelings of jealousy.

5. You’re not in the game. If you’re shy, reserved, or aloof, you are not approachable. Many beautiful women are ignored by guys because the odds of rejection are too high. You also telegraph likely rejection if you hold back. If you find a guy attractive, meet him halfway by signaling your interest with eye contact and a smile. If you know him, pay him some attention.

6. You’re too picky. You want a guy who is well-educated, financially successful, handsome, funny, witty, generous, blah blah blah. You want a 10. Get realistic. How about well-educated, funny and generous? Or handsome and witty, but a poet, i.e. broke? Perhaps financially successful, generous and fun to be with, but never went to college? Keep an open mind when you’re sizing up men. Allow yourself to find the good.

7. You’re a Girl Gone Wild. Stop dancing on tabletops when you’re drunk. In fact, stop getting drunk. Drunk is ugly. No one, male or female, ever became more attractive when they got drunk (beer goggles just fool you into thinking they did). When you are drunk, you say and do foolish things. Step away from the beer pong table. If you wouldn’t do it sober…then you really don’t want to do it at all.

8. You’re ditzy. I once knew a very smart woman who exclaimed at a frat party that she thought Mt. Rushmore was a natural phenomenon. I don’t know why some women love to get all girly and giggly. I suppose it makes them feel sexier, a la Marilyn Monroe. If you’re with a guy who wants his women stupid, you need a new guy. Lose the simpering act.

9. You’re a Mean Girl. Seriously, stop being a bitch. I’ve heard guys speak in awe (and fear) of mean girls, but Chuck Bass is the only guy I’ve ever seen who really wanted to love one, and he’s fictitious. Sometimes, guys want to get with mean girls because they’re powerful, but that relationship isn’t about love.

10. You’re high maintenance.

You always feel slighted. He’s always saying and doing the wrong thing. Your feelings are constantly hurt, and he is constantly apologizing. Fighting all the time can be rewarding in the short-term, because it amps up the sexual tension for makeup sex, but ultimately it’s a total boner-killer.

11. You’re aggressive. You act like one of the guys. You pursue, make moves, call the shots. You say that you’re a liberated woman, so you can grab whatever cock grabs your fancy. That will get you laid, but try to remember that it’s the male of the species that got the big dose of testosterone. That male is biologically programmed to seek his complementary opposite – which includes a much larger dose of estrogen. You can be strong, independent, and very, very female.

12. You’re self-absorbed. You talk about yourself all the time. You talk about your ex all the time. You cry on his shoulder all the time when you don’t get what you want. You’re not really giving. You’re not emotionally engaged in a caring and generous way. If you’re not curious about him; if you are not hungry for details about who he is and what he’s into, then maybe he’s the wrong guy. Or maybe you’re the wrong girl.

13. You’re a homebody. You’re not out there meeting new people every day. You are not going through each day looking to interact with and smile at attractive and approachable people. And by the way, get off the cell phone. The adorable guy behind you in line at Starbucks can’t say hi if you’re on your phone, plus he’s hearing you sound like a complete idiot with your BFF.

14. You’re too hard to get. Yes, everyone likes a challenge. No one likes eager or desperate. But employing “The Rules” or some other silly tactic is just going to leave you solo. If he asks you out spontaneously for tonight, that’s a real invitation. If you are interested, accept. A guy’s suggesting a plan on the spur of the moment is not him treating you badly. It’s him expressing an interest in spending time with you. (Obviously, do the opposite of what I say here if it’s a booty call situation.)

15. Your number is too high. OK, fine, you don’t want any guy who cares about how many people you’ve slept with. Problem is….that’s most guys. You don’t have to tell anyone your personal data. Just be aware that when you’re making the rounds within a certain community or group of friends, word gets out fast. I don’t think there has ever, ever been a guy who got laid and didn’t tell anyone about it afterwards. If your number is high and that fact is well known, you have every right to find a new pack of males and revirginate reinvent yourself.

16. You’re flaky. A plan is a commitment. Don’t blow someone off when something better comes along. Don’t ditch him because your friend “really needs you.” Don’t double book yourself. Don’t be late. Don’t get drunk and not show. Women constantly complain that men aren’t reliable, but I’ve seen plenty of women flake out on guys.

17. You’re materialistic. You know what? The best dates are cheap dates. In fact, I think the best dates I ever had were actually free dates. Cooking together. Hanging out. Taking a long walk. I met my husband in graduate school, and he was dead broke. He was paying his own way and had very little money. We’d only been together a month or so when my birthday rolled around. He gave me very inexpensive fun earrings, but what I remember is the card he made. All it said on it was: Head Over Heels. That was the best birthday gift ever.

18. You’re scared. You’ve been burned before. You are understandably wary. This leads you to be withholding. He puts it out there, lays it on the line, and you just can’t reciprocate. You really like him, but you just don’t want to get hurt again. This means he knows up front that he will be the one to get hurt. No guy will stick around to watch that happen. You’ve got to find a way forward. There is no love for any of us without considerable risk, so do what you need to do to work through it.

19. You’re rigid. You have plans for Saturday night, but his buddies are going to a game that night, would Friday be OK? You say, “No, you made plans with me first. And Saturday is date night.” He picks you up and mentions that one of his friends and his gf will be joining the two of you for dinner, if that’s OK. It’s not. You’re miffed that you two won’t be having a night alone. He wants to go to the party, you don’t. You grudgingly agree to go and stay for an hour. After an hour, you want to leave, he’s having a great time. You let him know that an hour’s up and it’s time to leave RIGHT NOW. Being rigid is largely about asserting control. That’s never a winning relationship tactic.

20. You’re a pushover. You put up with all kinds of crap. You allow yourself to be booty called and stood up. You allow him to tease you in a not-affectionate way (comments about your weight come to mind). You allow him to pick fights, and then forgive him for flirting or hooking up with another girl in the two hours you were broken up. If you do not respect yourself, he certainly isn’t going to respect you, and your value in his eyes will tank.

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Is it Love?

It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. Do you wonder what is going on in your current relationship. Is it love, lust or bust? Take our quick and easy quiz to find out.

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Let us discuss about the top 10 problems teenagers face in today’s world.

Drugs – This is a common problem that most of the teens face today. They could be addicted to drugs due to a number of reasons. Mostly it is the peer pressure. If the parents don’t have time for these kids then the problem only becomes more serious. So do not blame your child if you catch him or her taking drugs. Give them the help and the support they need. It is also equally important that you explain them how drugs can be dangerous and must be avoided. We have an article that is dedicated to the problems of drug addiction. We hope that the article will help you to deal with the problems better.

Study pressure – The teenagers today are under a lot of study pressure from both the teachers and the parents. They have to get good grades so that they get into a good college. You must talk to the child and see the problems that they are facing. Many teenagers under pressure tend to cheat and if caught they have to face very bad consequences. This can make the kids rebellious and also less disciplined. The parents must understand that not all children can get the best grades. They must be more understanding to the kids and their ability. You must allow the child to bring out the best in them and not get pressured to perform.

Pressure in a relationship- Many teenagers today are in relationships. This may also include physical involvement with a person. When teenagers are involved in unsafe sex it can lead to pregnancy and also other sexually transmitted diseases. You must be very strong as a parent when you need to deal with a situation like this. You must never blame the child or hit him or her. You must explain to them the pros and cons of a relationship and how they must deal with it. As a parent it may be more difficult if you do not share a very friendly relationship with the child. Some teenagers who are heart broken in love can get really depressed and even try to commit suicide. These cases are on the rise and we must advise the parents to be very careful to deal with a situation like this.

Constant need to look good – Many teenagers today suffer from body image problem. They spend a huge sum of money on clothes and the way they are looking but at the end of it they are never satisfied. Not all the teenagers can look gorgeous as a result the others who do not have a great figure and looks start to feel depressed and become introverts. They don’t make friends and like to stay at home as they are too fat and not attractive enough to get a date. Some also blame their parents for the dark skin or for not taking care of their diet as a child. You may feel really upset to see this form of your child and also feel very dejected. However, you must understand that the child is frustrated and needs your help. If the child is very upset never leave them alone. Just listen to all that they have to say till they calm down. Leaving them alone can be a big mistake.

Constant pressure to excel in all aspects of life – as a teenager everyone wants to be the best in all the activities so that the other kids in school admire them and look up to them. However, there are a lot of problems that come with this will to be the best. Many children stress themselves much more they can or they should. They spend hours studying or working too hard. As a result they may become restless and also fall sick. The parents must take good care of the child and see what exactly the child is doing. The parents must tell the kids to relax along with all the hard work that they are putting in. This is one reason why many students get stress attacks and also may suffer from high pressure at times. It has become common to find stress related health problems in the teenagers. The parents are also equally responsible for this plight of the students as they put undue pressure on the children to perform which is not good for them.

Uncertainty about the future – Most of the teenagers are not sure as to what life holds for them. Which college they will get in and what will be the career that they will be making is uncertain as a result the students often feel depressed and are found lost or day dreaming. Some of them are very confused on what they should do and what career they should make. As a parent and teacher you must give advice to the students and show them the way. If the child needs career counselling then you must provide that. One more reason for teenagers being stressed is that they want to persue a profession but their parents may have a different dream for them. This conflict in vision and desires can also make the life of the students difficult.

Drinking and smoking – A common concern that all teenagers face is of drinking and smoking. If the teenagers are found drinking and smoking they must be dealt with sensitively. As a parent you must be aware that your child will drink and smoke as this is normal. However, if they are into too much of these then you must take action and deal with the problem. You can also send them to a rehabilitation centre. The teenagers may feel the need to smoke and drink due to the pressure that they are in from their friends and peers.

Depression- All the points that we have mentioned above can lead to depression in teenagers. If you go by the statistics you will be surprised to see the number of teenagers who suffer from depression. The number is only increasing. The depression in teenagers is not a good sign as it can ruin the future if the teenagers. The worst part is that the teenager may not know how exactly he or she is going to deal with the depression. This only increases the magnitude of the problem more. The cause of depression can be personal as well as academic. As a teenager mood swings are common and natural. However, if the depression continues for too long then it can be quite dangerous and painful for the child as well as for the parents. You must take the child to psychiatrists because teenagers trying to commit suicide are very common across the world.

Addition to the social network- social networking has become the necessity in the life of the teenagers. If you check the internet you will see how teenagers are addicted to the net. They also invite unnecessary trouble because of this and also get followed by stalkers. This can lead to a lot of crimes against the teenagers. They are so addicted at times that they spend whole night updating their details on the sites. They do not sleep well and cannot even concentrate on their studies as a result they suffer a lot in all the aspects of life. This has become one of the most common problems that the teenagers face today and cannot even get rid of.

Eating disorders- This is a problem that is more common with the teenage girls. They fear that they will become fat as a result they do not eat at all. Due to this they suffer from anemia and anorexia. They become too thin and weak as a result they develop a lot of health related complexities. This is a common problem that teenagers all across the world are facing. Teenage boys on the other hand have the habit of eating lot of junk. They do not have any discipline and either they skip a meal or overeat at times. As a child you can force your kids to eat healthy but as teenagers it becomes difficult to make them eat things that are healthy for them as a result they suffer seriously.

Setting Boundaries for YOU

You were probably taught as a kid to never go along with any kind of sexual pressure and told that setting boundaries can help in

these situations. That you should say "no" or walk away from situations that don't feel right to you—no matter how reassuring or pushy the other person is.

Well guess what? Setting boundaries is the golden rule in sex and relationships for the rest of your life. If you don't want to do something, if you feel pressured, or if you think something doesn't feel right, then you should say, "No," loudly and clearly. This will set boundaries for your partner. That includes everything from NOT kissing a guy just because he wants to kiss you to not giving in to sex just because you feel pressured. Tell an adult that this is happening and keep telling until someone listens.

Why should you practice setting boundaries? Because sex, romance, and love are wonderful parts of life, but only if you learn about them at your pace. If you betray yourself by not setting boundaries you may carry around bad feelings for a long time, and you may have trouble feeling good about love and sex in the future.

Other Sources of Pressure

You might think that we only feel "sexual pressure" from someone else. But we also feel pressure from ourselves—from our own desires, our own curiosity, or the excitement of doing something new or of rebelling.

And we feel peer pressure. You may think you're over that, but studies show that what we decide to do or not do sexually is most influenced by what we think our peers are doing. Just be aware of that fact and try very hard to be true to yourself, even if that is not the "cool" thing.

As for the pressure we feel from our own desires and curiosity, those feelings are fine, too, but we can't just act on our desires all the time. Think, and weigh what's right for you in a given situation. And for you, that may include moral and religious considerations. It should definitely include thinking about the consequences of your actions and being responsible for others as well as yourself.

Setting Boundaries for YOU

Decisions about sex and relationships are complicated because humans are complicated. One of the most difficult things in life is trying to understand ourselves. So often, girls decide to go ahead with fooling around or having intercourse instead of setting boundaries. Counselors talk with teenage girls all the time who do stuff to be "popular," to be liked, or hoping to find love. A lot of times these motivations result in disappointment and hurt.

The bottom line is: Be true to who you are by setting boundaries, make decisions that feel right for you, and act out of your own needs—not someone else's.

10 Tips to Have a Successful Teenage Life

We never get our childhood and adolescence back once we’re adults! For teens, life is not a playground, it’s a jungle.The life of a teenager is full of tough issues and life-changing decisions. Parents are responsible to help them learn the principles and ethics that will help them to reach their goals and live a successful life.

As we see that most of the teenagers are ruined during this age, this article will focus on showing you how to avoid this and also how to be more alert about your teenage life. Follow the steps below, you can achieve a successful teenage life.

 

1. Always be yourself.

Being yourself makes you more comfortable and builds confidence in your heart and soul. Don’t forget to always be yourself.

2. Do best in school.

School sets you up on the right track! No matter how boring it is now, education will help you be a productive member in society. Strive for excellence in school; try your best, listen to the teachers, do your homework, study, and get good grades. Doing so will help you get into a better college/university, which will enable you to get a great job in the future.

3. Be aware before doing anything new.

Many people regret for the terrible mistakes they have done but at once it was what they exactly wanted. So, always be aware before doing anything new to yourself.

4. Do what you love.

Do experiment and discover new things. Adopt a hobby; reading, writing, sewing, singing, dancing, playing a sport, making pottery, etc. It will pass time and help you develop your personality.

5. Never take drugs.

Keep in mind; No drugs ever, they lead towards death. People who have tried them are now dead such as Amy Winehouse and Whitney Houston and many other. If you can avoid these things during your teen years, they’re a lot easier to avoid once you’re out of high school and away from peer pressure.

6. Draw your future.

life is full of amazing things to do and learn about. Start from one single step to reach your goal. Start thinking about careers you would like to be in, but make a good choice based on your interests and strengths. This could be your job for the rest of your life!

7. Love life and pray.

You’re young only for a short time, and before you know it you’ll be an adult that will be lying around saying, “I wish I had done this when I was younger.” Be daring, go out into the world and live life. You get the opportunity to enjoy life only once. God is always watching you!

8. Choose your friends wisely.

Never hang out with someone who doesn’t make you feel comfortable. Be with people who make you happy, and ditch the ones who don’t. Create a group of supportive, loving friends that can help you succeed in life and live your dreams.

9. Be active!

Join a sports team at school or out of school. Go for a run around your neighbourhood. Join a yoga group, go swimming at the local recreation centre, do sit-ups during commercial breaks on TV – anything! Just exercise! It helps you feel better, mentally and physically.

10. Be Proactive

Being proactive is the key to unlocking the other habits. Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don’t blame others for their own actions or feelings.